Thursday, August 09, 2007

On the Mend

Thank you everyone for your kind words. It IS so hard to see your baby sick. We were just beside ourselves because she went down for her nap in a very cheery mood. She woke up miserable and soon became unbelievably hot and the worst was her breathing. It was very labored and very short panting breathing. Luckily we got a hold of our guide who took us to an American/Canadian clinic. It was something like out of a movie. The clinic was closed so all the lights were off but we obviously woke up the nurse and doctor on call, they were the only two people we saw in the place. After seeing her and knowing that the Tylenol we were giving her wasn't breaking her high temperature, they do it in celsius so I think it was around 102, they gave her the suppository then advised us to go to the hospital. On the ride over in the back of a cab holding on to her for dear life, she started to break it. I'm not even sure I can describe the Guangzhou Children's Hospital, it was the craziest place I've ever been. There weren't even entrance doors, just open air, it reminded me of an old run down bus station or subway station. People among people, babies, so many babies. We had to take her temperature under her arm, one that took 5-8 minutes, no instant read thermometer here. All the while we drew a lot of stares and people coming in our face to see this Chinese baby we were carrying. All of the children and babies had big white rectangle stickers on their foreheads. I asked our guide why this was. He said the Chinese believe the high temperature will cause the baby's brain to fry so they believe these stickers will help. I have no idea what was in them but it was a funny sight to see all these babies and kids with them on. When it was our turn to see the doctor you had to fight your way into the room and other parents would shove their way in even it was your turn, it's like whoever can get there first. There were 2-3 other parents with their babies in the room trying to get the doctor to see them, no respect, no privacy, it's all just fending for yourself. The doctor ruled out pneumonia but ordered a blood test. Same thing, no line for the lab just people shoving their way to the front of the line. Magnolia did well, cried but oh, she's such a strong little girl. Then we had to wait 30 minutes for the results. Our guide, Simon, took us next door to a McDonalds where it was cool and we were finally able to get some food in us. The stares, pointing, and whispering was abundant in the McDonalds. Sometimes it's like we're a circus show and people actually encircle us to watch not caring at all that they are staring. I've learned to make eye contact, smile, and say Ni-Hao with Magnolia and that usually stops people. The blood test confirmed a bacterial infection and the doctor advised us to use the antibiotic we brought from home for her, thank goodness we had it! The doctor was also concerned that she get better before we leave for home. We assured him that we had 9 more days here. We have to go back if she's not better in 4 days. She's definitely a sick baby but already had 2 rounds of antibiotic and hasn't run that high of a temp. since last night. Sleep, sleep, sleep. George just went out to find a pharmacy to buy more bottles. Since all the nipples have huge holes cut in them, it's hard to get a lot of water in her since it flows too quickly. SO, nothing like breaking in new parents by coming all the way to China and receiving your 9 month old baby having no idea of her previous medical history, allergies, and being in a health care system so unbelievably foreign to you and relying on your guide for translation and trusting doctors you've never seen before. Not only that, neither of us spoke of it until today, but were both terrified last night that something was horribly wrong with her...we were brought back to the trauma of losing our three girls. George was wonderful last night, my body was like lead and I went into complete shock and he took over. The good news about all of this is that Magnolia is on the mend and she really bonded with her daddy last night.


15 comments:

Anonymous said...

How terrifying! We can completely picture the hospital scene - we've witnessed similar experiences too often. But can't imagine trying to get treatment for a sick baby in such chaos. So scary! It sounds like you guys were amazing. Magnolia is so lucky to have both of you. Her pictures in her pink sleeper are too cute!

M&G xx

Anonymous said...

Thank goodness; I tried to hold on to positive images of Magnolia getting well throughout the day; had I known the full story as grippingly described by Lucy I would have been awake all night.

You must be completely limp, but beginning to relax as well I hope.

I rescued a large black and white cat yesterday--I had seen it Tuesday by the front porch looking very wobbly, but it hissed at me, so I just left food and water close by. It stayed nearby one day and night in the shade of the bushes in the McCauley's yard, then was gone Wednesday morning. I hoped he had recovered and made his way home (where ever that was), and I didn't have any idea whose he was until I saw a flyer posted near Eleanor's; recognized the cat, called the owner. We both went looking for him, working our way toward the middle. I found him on the west side of the McCauleys--alive. Paulette (lives on Waterman and whom I had met last spring at a party )was just approaching my front door as I ran back to call her, so she went to him, and her husband came soon after. Humphrey is at the Emergency Center being watched over-night.

I'm delivering two small grants to UrbanFuture today, and will look forward to seeing more of my luscious granddaughter with her parents.

All my love,

Moma

Anonymous said...

That sounds like such an adventure! What a story! In no time Magnolia will get better! You are right on with staying in and resting--seems like a nice break to just "be". Lots of fluids (way to go G!), lots of sleep & lots of love is perfect medicine to add to the Dr.'s antibiotics. She'll be just fine for the trip home. Can't wait to see you guys! Keep up the great work. I love the pictures & the journal entries. These are what I look forward to everyday! Much love & well wishes coming your way-Emily & family

Anonymous said...

Not only are you dealing with a sick baby, which all parents must do, but you are doing this in an incredible situation in a totally foreign environment, which few parents ever do. You keep getting tested, and you keep passing. Soon, you will be home with Magnolia in a place you know surrounded by your family who loves you so. Mom and I send our love as the token of our support and understanding across these many miles, knowing you and Magnilia will soon be here. Love,
Dad and Mom.

Anonymous said...

Hi you guys -- sheesh - turns out to be something more serious than a cold huh. To hear that you brought antibiotics with you convinces me that there is nothing you won't ever be ready for. We continue to try to send out positive vibrations of healing and love to all three of you, from around the earth! Sounds like quite the health care system. God Bless and keep your family :) and give that baby another hug for us please!

Tom Chris & Charlie

ps This is from Tom - I know Christine is going to want to send you her own wishes too.

Anonymous said...

Lucy & George...I'm sorry that I haven't written sooner; been preoccupied w. our baby-Graham- as he leaves for UGA today.

I am so enthralled w. your journal/journey. I pray that by the rime you read this, Magnolia will be on a fastrack to health. I can only imagine how disheartened and frightened you must have been when she spiked the fever.

The pictures are enchanting...can't wait to meet her in person. We're all so very happy for you and we love you three.

Much love from,

Nanore and the rest of the ELPHs

Anonymous said...

Dear Lucy...I never would have slept, had I known what you were going through. You made it, it's over, and hopefully clear sailing from here on. I have been wondnering if Magnolia is eating "new" foods, not only the food she was getting at the orphanage, and also if you have used the stroller or just stay with the Bourne. Are you talking with the other parents as you go through the day, and is Magnolia inter-acting with other babies? We are hanging on every word and photo. Love, Nana Joya.

Anonymous said...

Oh Lucy and George, what a scary time! It is so heart wrenching to have a sick child and the stress of being in a foreign place with a very different type of care would be even worse. I know how worried we were when Charlie had a 104 degree fever in FLA. I can only imagine how frightening your night must have been especially with your experience with your girls. You both seem to have handled it like pros. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you all for a speeedy recovery for Magnolia. I hope that you and George are able to get rest and fluids and avoid getting sick too! I am glad to hear that she is on the mend.

I have found that having children is the most wonderful blessing - unlike any I have known before. It is also the biggest rollercoaster of emotions that I have ever experienced!

Even when Magnolia is sick she is still so beautiful and I love her pink sleeper! :)

Tom, Charlie and I are headed up North this morning. We are really looking forward to a long weekend away! Look forward to reading and seeing your updates upon our return.

Love and hugs to you all,
Christine, Tom and Charlie

Anonymous said...

Dear Lucy,
Your Uncle John and I recently got a computer - (we were the last to get a micro-wave also!) and how thankful I am that it enables us to be hands-on with our family. I read your entire adventure with rapt attention. Thank you for letting us share in your incredible journey. What an incredibly emotional and wonderful time for you and George. Did you know that you and Jodie favor each other visually as well as the way you describe things? It's amazing how the whole genetic thing works. Anyway I was studying the picture of you when you were apparently just being handed your beautiful new baby and I saw the look of love and emotion on George's face watching you with joy on your face. I had tears running down. What a beautiful moment to be captured on film. I'm so happy for you Lucy. Magnolia is such a pretty name for such a pretty baby. Praise to God for He has truly blessed you! I anxiously await your new entries of this unbelievable milestone in your lives. Love to you, Aunt Vickie

Anonymous said...

Dear Lucy,
Your Uncle John and I recently got a computer - (we were the last to get a micro-wave also!) and how thankful I am that it enables us to be hands-on with our family. I read your entire adventure with rapt attention. Thank you for letting us share in your incredible journey. What an incredibly emotional and wonderful time for you and George. Did you know that you and Jodie favor each other visually as well as the way you describe things? It's amazing how the whole genetic thing works. Anyway I was studying the picture of you when you were apparently just being handed your beautiful new baby and I saw the look of love and emotion on George's face watching you with joy on your face. I had tears running down. What a beautiful moment to be captured on film. I'm so happy for you Lucy. Magnolia is such a pretty name for such a pretty baby. Praise to God for He has truly blessed you! I anxiously await your new entries of this unbelievable milestone in your lives. Love to you, Aunt Vickie

Anonymous said...

Dear Lucy,
Your Uncle John and I recently got a computer - (we were the last to get a Micro-wave also!) - but how thankful I am that hte computer enables me to be hands -on with my family. I read you entire adventure with rapt attention. thanks for letting us share in your incredible journey. What an incredibly emotional and wonderful time for you and George! (Did you know that you and Jodie favor each other visually as well as the way you describe things?) You do! It's amazing how the whole genetis thing works! Anyway I was studying the picture of you when you were apparently just being handed your beautiful new baby and the look of love and emotion on Georges face watching you with total joy on your face brought me to tears. What a beautiful moment to be captured on film. I'm so happy for you Lucy! Magnolia is such a pretty name for such a pretty baby. Praise God for He has truly blessed you! I anxiously await your new entries on this unbelievable milestone in your life! Love to you, Aunt Vickie

Anonymous said...

Oh my gosh - I struggled with sending my message to you ( as I am quite computer illiterate - Jodie is my technical adviser - I call her quite often much to her dismay - but apparently not often enough because I sent you my message three times. Oopsie! I'm sorry! Only read the last one. :) Love, Aunt Vickie

Jodie said...

Yikes that is scary!! I really feel for you. Thank goodness she's getting better. Even sick as a dog Magnolia is cute as can be. :) Good luck with everything!

Anonymous said...

What a frightening experience!! I am so glad Magnolia is feeling better. Please give her a big kiss from Aunt Mary. It is so true what Dad said about you two constantly being tested. It seems so unfair but it has made you such wonderful parents who appreciate every moment with your sweet daughter. God bless you and I hope you all stay healthy. I miss talking to you every morning Lucy!!
Love, Mary

Anonymous said...

Dear George Lucy, What an ordeal you went through , but it shows how strong you both are. Magnolia is very lucky to have such devoted and loving parents. It will be so wonderful when you are back home in the beautiful place you have made ready for her. Here's to her speedy recovery and to your safe trip home. Keep the pictures coming. It's the first thing I look for everyday and the last thing I look for every night. Love Aunt Jenny